Set Boundaries, Find Peace

I'm skimming through a book on boundaries today called Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab. I found a few interesting passages.

Taking care of yourself looks like:

• Setting manageable expectations around caring and being present for others
• Maintaining your mental health
• Operating in your role as child instead of parent to your parents
• Operating in your role as sibling instead of parent to your siblings
• Asking for what you need
• Spending holidays doing things that you enjoy
• Giving people the space to care for themselves
• Checking in less often with people who drain your energy
• Figuring out who you are separately from what you were made to believe about yourself
• Not using your past as a reason to avoid proceeding with life
• Talking about your feelings
• Allowing yourself to feel pleasure
• Sharing the truth of your past without sugarcoating your experience
• Being gentle with yourself
• Teaching yourself things that you weren't taught in childhood
• Learning to enjoy your body

I also found this:

"Making self-deprecating statements is another way that you may be speaking unkindly about yourself. When you make disparaging comments or cruel jokes about yourself, you give others license to do the same to you. So be mindful of what you say about yourself in front of others."

Boundaries to consider:

• I speak to myself as gentle as I would talk to a small child. 
• I coach myself through awkward moments.
• I allow myself to make mistakes without judging myself harshly.
• I don't call myself names.
• I don't make mean comments about myself either in my mind or out loud in front of others.